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Money Makes Me Miserable


In my life, and in most people’s life, money has been a motivator of some sorts. Whether you are employed, self employed, a business owner, an investor, or unemployed, money is there in the mix. The question is, does the money element make us happy?

Well, yes and no. Money makes us happy when we get it, and unhappy when we don’t. If you’re anything but employed, with a fixed income, you should know what I’m talking about. The income may go up and down. Sometimes you have money, other times you don’t. And in the times you don’t, you tend to feel miserable.

We all need money. Or do we? More and more people live without money and are just fine with that. And without money, the reasons why you do stuff change. The reason can not be money anymore, at least. Then, what’s the motive for doing anything?

Of course, the motive would be to do what you like doing and what gives you some kind of fulfillment. To me, making movies and doing creative stuff that help other people gives me a great deal of fulfillment and joy.

I am self employed, and I need a monetary income. Still, lately, I have tried to ‘live without money’ in my mind. Instead of interacting with people because I need a job and want their money, I try to base everything I do in what I like doing and in giving service to others. And what I like doing is to create stunning moving images, developing myself as a film maker with all it’s aspects (directing, cutting, sound, etc.), and GIVE this product to the ones I do it for. Thus, my goal is to develop myself to be the best I can for others. And sharing what I do with the ones I do it for is a big fulfillment for me.

I am here now. I do not suffer. I have what I need. I have come to this point living through my whole life. I am not dead. I am alive, and I have always gotten what I needed. I trust that what I need will continue to come to me. And I do what I do because I have an urge to do it. I like doing it, it fulfills me and in helping others I get even more fulfilled. This is my ‘mantra’.

There is no mention of money in this mantra, and to me that feels wonderful. As soon as money becomes a motivation for doing anything of what I do, I get a stressful feeling in my chest, OR I get a cheerful feeling in my chest. All dependent on whether I get a lot or I get a little. In general, though, money as a motivator  makes me miserable. Why? Because money isn’t real. Money is only a made up entity. Money does nothing in the real world. It basically only functions as a filter, blurring the relationship between me and the tasks I perform, the people I interact with and the world at large.

Taking money out of the equation in my mind has changed everything. I feel much freer, more relaxed, much less stressful, happier. Basically, I feel more ME. I can do the things I do for a different reason. A True reason. A reason that truly makes me happy, fulfilled and in peace with myself. I pursue my path, not out of a need for money, but out of an urge to be of service to humanity. A believe me, even if this sounds grand, it is bound to make you feel a hell of a lot better than what money could ever make you feel. THIS feeling is a continuous feeling that only get’s bigger and bigger. Not like with money, where the good feeling comes and goes, depending on your monetary income and your ability to BUY stuff to make you feel better.

When I decided I would not let money run my life anymore, things also started to change, also in terms of money. It is a paradox, but that’s the way it is. When I don’t do things for money, money comes to me anyway. And so far, I have gotten what I need without a problem. I don’t say no to the money, since other people want them from me, like the electrical company, the landlord, the grocery store, and so on. If all the others, though, didn’t want money from me, I would gladly continue to do what I do for ‘free’. Except there would be no such thing as ‘free’ in a world where everything is free. ‘Free’ would be the norm, and we would all BE truly FREE.

Taking money out of the equation in my mind is a good start to train myself on ‘thinking without money’, and thus, a good way to start imagining what a resource based economy would be like, and what I would do in one.

Try it. No matter what you do today, you can try to think about the reason why you do it as one of service. Service to yourself and service to others. Take any monetary gain you have out of the equation and see what you are left with. Of course, if what you are left with is close to nothing, maybe you should think about changing what you do to something that really fulfills you. And, remember, being of service to yourself, your fellow being, and to humanity itself is a truly fulfilling thing. And with this as the guiding principle for living, there will always be ‘jobs’ for everyone.

 

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4 Responses so far.

  1. shockme says:

     I think it would take a lot of money to make me miserable. I can also be miserable for free. Since I only value money for the things people give me for it, I won’t miss it when these things come my way without it.

  2. Anon says:

    Very True, money is not real, and it is nothing more than a commodity of “non-real” value which is exchanged between people for something of real value. Money just slows down developing processes. Money was actually a good idea at the time of its inception, but that was a long time ago and the people of the world faced REAL Scarcity. But as technology developed, there was no need for the monetary system to continue and money was obsolete long ago. But the trend continued, and it is now today deeply integrated into our social, economic, political, cultural, technological dimensions. Patents for technology that make free energy possible are continuously being dismissed by the government, and the press does not cover these stories. Poverty cannot be eradicated like this. Visit my page to know more about India

  3. Norma RBE Now! says:

    Money makes us all miserable! That’s the truth.

  4. Geiler says:

    I can say that Living without money shoul be the true goal of humanity, but where i live in (Colombia) if you do everything for free you can REALLY die of hunger, but i´m trying hard to do it because if this keep going the way it is we all are doomed, to sadness, frustration and ignorance.

    Regards

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